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Postby Bamabear » Thu Dec 31, 2020 10:08 am

is 16, been home since covid, all of the schools are out , virtual school, he sits at home 24/7 , plays on the games, and does school, watches tv, nothing else, is feeling sorry for himself, want attention , has always been this way, embarrassed everyone when he was younger, talking back, acting out, put on ADD meds... but better now, growing up, but is telling everyone he has suacidall tendencies. not... I think he is still seeking attention, but you never know. I wonder how many kids from school are thinking this way now.. there is nothing for them to do! He was fine here on Christmas, nothing at all.... I think they ought to do away with games.. I told his mom he needs to be still taking his meds, he has not took them for months,, I just think he needs something to do... maybe get a part time job, he really wants to work... that would be good for him. I pray that things get back to normal.. and school gets back...
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Re: Grandson

Postby Red Dave » Thu Dec 31, 2020 10:35 am

These lockdowns and shutdowns were supposed to be temporary to "flatten the curve", but now seem to be the only answer the government (at least the dimwitted government here in PA) can come up with. Maybe they help, but they also hurt. The lockdowns have a cost too. Some places are sending kids back to school anyway. You can't keep kids cooped up like this forever.

I would hate to be a kid in school today. It will soon be an entire year lost. I know they are doing the online classes, but it is not the same. How do you get back a lost year of childhood? I'm glad our kids aren't young anymore, even though our son is taking college classes online. How does a single parent work full time and care for young children when the kids don't go to school during the day?
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Re: Grandson

Postby Alias » Thu Dec 31, 2020 7:50 pm

As I read this post and saw that your grandson is 16 with thoughts of committing suicide, I recall when I was 14. That was when my father injured his back and I alone was left to do the farm work. Which, made it doubly hard because most of my life had been lived in a small southern town and there were too many things about farming I simply didn't know. And, since both of my older brothers were serving in the military, there left only myself to pick up the slack. So, for 2 and a half years I did it all. And, there were many nights when I was so tired I'd fall asleep by the time my head hit the pillow. But, looking back over my life I wouldn't take anything for that experience. For, it prepared me to cope with everything that followed in my life. The worst part of all was dropping out of school midway through the eighth grade. Luckily, we didn't have cell phones and video games back then.....................gfp
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Re: Grandson

Postby nadx » Sun Jan 10, 2021 11:53 pm

'bama, i pray for you and him, pay special attention to this young man, kids today are facing things no one has in 100 years. encourage him to get outside, enjoy the sunshine, fish, hike, visit friends online or safely from a distance, find out what makes him happy, keep encouraging him...its no easy;;;;;;;;allow him some slack...see friends safely
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Re: Grandson

Postby Bamabear » Mon Jan 11, 2021 7:44 am

He is so much better, only wanting Attention,,, lots better, but maybe next year school will be back to normal. he will be a senior...
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Re: Grandson

Postby Alias » Mon Jan 11, 2021 7:49 am

nadx wrote:'bama, i pray for you and him, pay special attention to this young man, kids today are facing things no one has in 100 years.


No insult intended and not to start an argument but, I'd just point out that 100 years ago the people, both young and old had to deal with the pandemic of 1919.

That plus WWI had left many young people without dads and mothers.

Then came the dust storms and the great depression which lasted for many, about 2 decades.

Oh yeah, let's not forget WWII which left more young people without fathers.

And, there was that nasty little Korean Police action which left more young people without fathers and too often, mothers.

But, most of those young people survived because they had to work in order to eat. So, they didn't have time to think about how bad they had it.

However, there was another thing to consider and that is, most all everyday working class Americans were in the same boat, just riding out the storm. But, their, (Our), greatest advantage was that, we didn't have television, cell phones, computer games, porno, child molesters and drugs to unduly influence our lives. The results was that there were far fewer suicides per capita than now. And, of course, there's that un-talked about "God" thing that we had which, is practically nonexistent in today's younger crowd.

So, Nadx I appreciate your compassionate suggestion regarding the subject grandson. And, I agree that his state of mind is not entirely his fault. Because, he is purely a product of his generation. But, I still like to think of the "Greatest Generation" as being just that.

Now, y'all a good day, ya heah ............gfp
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Re: Grandson

Postby smugpug » Mon Jan 11, 2021 11:04 am

You don't like to see anyone having personal troubles, but we have to take a good hard look in the mirror as a country and see that the last 2-3 generations have divorced themselves from the Judeo-Christian ethic that made this country great in the first place. Evil has been declared good and good has been declared evil. Self-sacrifice, strong work ethic, honesty, sobriety, strong families, morality, the world does not owe you a living, and other things have been set aside and replaced with the self absorbed, no work ethic but ian entitlement mentality, situation ethics, single-parent and fatherless homes, drug use, immorality, perversion and other things that might have momentary pleasure, but in the long run provides nothing but hopelessness, despair, poverty, division, and death to an individual, family, community, and Nation.
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Re: Grandson

Postby nadx » Fri Jan 15, 2021 7:32 pm

Alias wrote:
nadx wrote:'bama, i pray for you and him, pay special attention to this young man, kids today are facing things no one has in 100 years.

No insult intended and not to start an argument but, I'd just point out that 100 years ago the people, both young and old had to deal with the pandemic of 1919."


that is what i meant - that's why i said that----
this isnt a competition on who had it worse you know?
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Re: Grandson

Postby REt » Fri Jan 15, 2021 7:44 pm

Good post ole buddy..
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